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photo of CharityBy Abiola Charity

Years back while waiting on God for the New Year as I used to every December, I fell on my back in our dining room and offered words of prayers about the coming year. Not too long afterwards, I heard the words, “NO REGRET,” so I paused to see if I just said that to myself because it sounded strange.


But as each moment passed by, the words “no regret” were impressed heavily on my heart until I accepted to pray more and look into the meaning. Gradually, I started seeing how powerful those words are and how important it is for us to live a life of no regret.

At the time of this writing, I feel so strongly in my heart that this is for as many that might have lived life on regrets, not just regretting the past life we might have lived but even a regret of the present, and God is reaching out to us at this time. Before I go further in my testimony of the word for that year, I will love to further open our eyes to some deceptions we might find ourselves in.

The word “regret” comes with fear, and many won’t admit they are living in regret because it is a silent killer of the fullness of life we are called to live. Many are slaves to “had I known” while others quietly utter “I hate myself for doing this.” Living a life of regret actually cages you with your permission.

The bible says in the book of Psalm 35:19, “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers us from them all.” Part of the deliverance is regrets from those bad times of our life and wrong decisions we might have made in times of affliction. (You can read the whole chapter of the book of Psalm 35).

You can’t continue living each day with regret and make progress in life. NO, someone has to hear this! God is saying to you, “Daughter, NO REGRET.” He is calling you into a life of liberty and not bondage, a life that accesses fullness of joy and not joy in a minute, sadness of heart in the next minute because you constantly remind yourself of what you did wrong, what is not working well for you, who offends you or who you offend, battling with forgiveness, and so on.

While growing up as a child, I had wounds that left me with scars on my body. I can’t remove the scars, but I can stop saying to myself, “Why did I climb that tree?” Some people might be saying, “What led me to drinking that I got hit by a car,” “Why should I have to suffer abuse at early age and no one cares to see my pain,” “Can I ever be forgiven by this person.” I can hear all this and many more in people’s hearts, but I have also learned that HE WHO SEEKS FORGIVENESS FROM GOD MUST ALSO LEARN TO FORGIVE SELF.

Don’t forget, I can’t remove the scars, but I can see the scars every day and still be grateful to God for seeing me through and that it did not end my life.

Now, this might apply to us in different areas of life but my point is this: I went through a whole year praying and also reminding myself to live a year of NO REGRET, and by the end of that very year I can boldly say to God, “Thank you for a year of NO REGRET, nothing to regret about, not even the decisions I made.” Then I felt this peace like a river, full of gratitude to God, a heart to love wholly and forgiveness overflowing.

So I said to myself, is it possible to continue in this life of NO REGRET? I thought of a covenant prayer with God to live a life of no regrets for the rest of my life.

What is that thing that you regret in your life? Sometimes, it might be your fault or you even have someone to blame for it. Today, God is calling out to you. Enough of the bitterness and hatred that blocks you from experiencing true love. There is healing for you as you read, and God’s power is touching your heart to free you from any form of regrets in Jesus name.

To another, you might say I have nothing to regret at this time, but are you prepared to continue living with that peace we have in Christ Jesus?

The Grace of our Lord Jesus is available for us to live a life of no regret. I mean for every day, hours and secs of our life, we can live. Psalm 16:11 says, “Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence there is FULLNESS OF JOY; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.” AMEN

Let nothing withhold you from enjoying the fullness of Joy in His presence. Search your heart and let go of all that is holding you back, pray them out, and purpose to live a life of no regrets.

I will love to drop my pen for now, with much love from me to you. SAY NO TO REGRET, YOU CAN AND GOD CAN.



By Elizabeth Ryan

My son and I took a road trip to California over the summer and while we were there some friends of ours invited us to join them for dinner at their summer home in Coronado Island. It was late afternoon when we arrived at their beautiful home, our friends greeted us at the door and welcomed us in.  As we made our way in I couldn’t help but notice a large cross hanging on the wall of the foyer. It was relatively a simple, contemporary style cross that was dark in color. As I admired it I could see that it had perfectly placed tiny dots of color that covered every inch. It was obvious that this was a beautiful piece of art, meticulously hand painted by an artist. After I studied the cross for a few moments, I proceeded into the next room to enjoy time with our friends.

As evening approached, my friend began to turn lights on throughout the house. I was standing in the kitchen when again the cross, illuminated by the light, caught my attention, this time even more profoundly than the first. In fact, I’m pretty sure I was in mid-sentence when I saw it. I was completely taken back by what the light revealed. (more…)

By Bobbie Rill, M.A., LPC

One of my favorite verses in the Bible is 2 Corinthians 2:14, which says, “Now thanks be to God who always causes us to triumph in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of Him.”

I remember the first time I read this verse.  Always causes us to triumph?  You’ve got to be kidding, I thought!  Not always.  As a Licensed Professional Counselor, one of the things I learned years ago when working on my Bachelor’s degree and then my Master’s in Counseling is that it’s important not to use the term always or never in reference to people because people change.  They are not always or never a certain way.  Yet the Bible says, always.  It says God always leads us in triumph or victory in Christ. (more…)

By Christian Bonner

I like emoticons. I think they are cute and a fun way to “show” how I’m feeling in my texts. My friend even had me sign up for the bitstrips app where you basically create an avatar of yourself and make comic strips of yourself and friends. She and I have a lot of fun with them and have had full conversations using them.

However, when it comes to emotions and expressing them in daily life, we can’t really use emoticons, and if we try, no amount of emoticons can make that experience more enjoyable because, well, it’s not.

Actually, I have grown to REALLY dislike the term “emotional” especially when it is used to describe someone. Today, the word is almost always used negatively. (more…)

By Tamrin Gerber

I saw an old man on the street
begging for anything he could find
I reached into my pocket and gave him everything I had
Because Love is Kind

I saw a young girl late one night
waiting on the corner of shame and regret
I took her to a shelter
Because Love always Protects

I saw my neighbor in the paper
He’d just won the lottery
I smiled and wished him all the best
Because Love does not envy

I saw my child make the same mistake
although I’d taught her different
I calmly showed her the right way again
Because Love is Patient

I saw a nation turn from God
looking everywhere else to cope
I prayed they’d find their way back
Because Love always Hopes

I saw myself in the mirror
a sinner of great detail
I remember Christ gave it all for me
Because Love never fails

I saw a man on a cross
full of Grace and Compassion
I Love because He first Loved me
Because Love is His passion

I looked again and saw myself
glowing – righteous and pure
His Love transforming me daily
To Love a lost and broken world.

By Dr. Deb Waterbury

My youngest son, Miles, and I have a unique mother/son relationship.  We most definitely relate on a familial level, but also he appreciates my counsel.  As a minister, much of what I do for women is counsel, but rarely does a parent experience that sort of relationship with her child. Miles, on the other hand, seeks my counsel.  And understand, I do not mean simply my advice.  At twenty-six, he still comes to me for solid counsel on every topic imaginable.

Needless to say, I love that he does so.  However, it has also presented some very touchy situations between the two of us, situations where I have found it necessary to be a little more honest than I would ordinarily be comfortable with when speaking to my son.  I know the value of transparency as a teacher and as a counselor, especially in terms of my walk with God, but that transparency recently took on an entirely new level in a recent conversation I had with Miles. (more…)